Winning the Argument or Solving the Problem

The movie Inside Out shows us a great view I feel of what may go on inside ones head at times.  A enjoyable movie and since watching it I find myself often thinking of these characters.  I have a dog that often times have the emotion of anger.  We even joke about this and bought her a stuff little Anger character for her cage.

This morning, this little 'hot head" Anger, arose in my husband and I.  Sad to say that.  The best couples at time have disagreement or an argument I feel at times.  It is mortal life and the adversary tries to get to the best of us at times.

Phil and I have a lot on our plates at the moment.  Callings in the church.  We both work full time.  We both are in school to further our education.  All are demanding our time.  The time that is demanded is long hours too. To be mindful of time, we really have to watch what we are doing at all times.

"Winning the Argument Or Solving the Problem, which do you want?" is an article I found today that I wanted to share.  It is from one of ours Church magazines.  In this told about a couple where he was quick to to say cutting words, and his wife at times would just let him "win" but often left crying.  I found myself in this article you could say.  My husband is very intelligent but also very quick with words. I find myself letting him just win. you could say.  Today, I got angry.  Not good came from that except ill feelings.

So at this time, I like to say in public I am sorry Phil!  You are a good man with a lot on your plate!  I know this and I should say it more often to you!

In the article at the end asked a few questions.  I like to leave you with three to ponder on.

1. Why is it important to understand your partner’s feelings during a conversation? How can you let him or her know that you’re trying to understand?
   
   
2. Why is listening—really listening—more important than always agreeing on everything? Why is it often more important than giving advice?
   
   
3. Why is it true that “in most arguments, both people are at fault”?
   I love my husband and so thankful we can have our testimonies and have the gospel.  We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.   I see some time together will be needed in the next few days I feel. 
   
   Love  you my best friend!  Always and forever!