Winning the Argument or Solving the Problem

The movie Inside Out shows us a great view I feel of what may go on inside ones head at times.  A enjoyable movie and since watching it I find myself often thinking of these characters.  I have a dog that often times have the emotion of anger.  We even joke about this and bought her a stuff little Anger character for her cage.

This morning, this little 'hot head" Anger, arose in my husband and I.  Sad to say that.  The best couples at time have disagreement or an argument I feel at times.  It is mortal life and the adversary tries to get to the best of us at times.

Phil and I have a lot on our plates at the moment.  Callings in the church.  We both work full time.  We both are in school to further our education.  All are demanding our time.  The time that is demanded is long hours too. To be mindful of time, we really have to watch what we are doing at all times.

"Winning the Argument Or Solving the Problem, which do you want?" is an article I found today that I wanted to share.  It is from one of ours Church magazines.  In this told about a couple where he was quick to to say cutting words, and his wife at times would just let him "win" but often left crying.  I found myself in this article you could say.  My husband is very intelligent but also very quick with words. I find myself letting him just win. you could say.  Today, I got angry.  Not good came from that except ill feelings.

So at this time, I like to say in public I am sorry Phil!  You are a good man with a lot on your plate!  I know this and I should say it more often to you!

In the article at the end asked a few questions.  I like to leave you with three to ponder on.

1. Why is it important to understand your partner’s feelings during a conversation? How can you let him or her know that you’re trying to understand?
   
   
2. Why is listening—really listening—more important than always agreeing on everything? Why is it often more important than giving advice?
   
   
3. Why is it true that “in most arguments, both people are at fault”?
   I love my husband and so thankful we can have our testimonies and have the gospel.  We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.   I see some time together will be needed in the next few days I feel. 
   
   Love  you my best friend!  Always and forever!
   
   

Two essays by our Church

This week two essays was put out by the Church this week.  First in Mother in Heaven.  We have a mother and father here on earth, so why not have a Mother in Heaven?  We do not pray to her and President Gordon B. Hinckley said this does not belittle her or denigrates her.
"As with many other truths of the gospel, our present knowledge about a Mother in Heaven is limited. Nevertheless, we have been given sufficient knowledge to appreciate the sacredness of this doctrine and to comprehend the divine pattern established for us as children of heavenly parents. Latter-day Saints believe that this pattern is reflected in Paul’s statement that “neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.”Men and women cannot be exalted without each other. Just as we have a Father in Heaven, we have a Mother in Heaven. As Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has said, “Our theology begins with heavenly parents. Our highest aspiration is to be like them.”
In doing so we should study always.

A second essay this week was Joseph Smith's Teachings About Priesthood, Temple and Women. 
This is focus on women and the early understanding of the priesthood.  "Two aspects of Joseph Smith’s teachings to the women of the Relief Society may be unfamiliar to members of the Church today. First is his use of language associated with priesthood. In organizing the Relief Society, Joseph spoke of “ordain[ing]” women and said that Relief Society officers would “preside over the Society.”He also declared, “I now turn the key to you in the name of God."

Many may feel this is going to open the doors to women hold the priesthood.  I only like to say to this is that it will come from down from our Lord if this is to be.  Lets let women continue in the many important rolls that we do have in the church today.

"Priesthood blesses the lives of God’s children in innumerable ways. Priesthood defines, empowers, ennobles, and creates order. In ecclesiastical callings, temple ordinances, family relationships, and quiet, individual ministry, Latter-day Saint women and men go forward with priesthood power and authority. This interdependence of men and women in accomplishing God’s work through His power is central to the gospel of Jesus Christ restored through the Prophet Joseph Smith."

All will be well

In families you have your moments.  You stand by your family, no matter what.  Elder Richard G. Scott said, ).  “To accelerate your growth and attainment in his plan for you, sometimes he employs a pattern described on the label of some medicines: “shake well before using.” Such shaking comes through stirring challenges and stretching tests.”  This is the shaking and testing for our family in the next few days.  Our missionary is coming home.  All will be well. We will help her get well too! 

This mamma wants to give her the biggest hug, and I will tomorrow.  With ward family to welcome her too.  This is our Church here that I call our ward family.  Her mission President has said she is a TRUE RM!  With that said, we are going to treat her just like that and have posters and such when she arrives.  She is to hold her head up high!  HIGH!

 

Celebrating 20 Years of "The Family: A Proclamation to the World"

Little over a week ago, I talked about "The Family: A Proclamation to the World". Today, I like to share with you this video that I came across and wanted to share it with you.  Please take a moment and watch the Gibson family that produced this video.  This is a beautiful testimony of "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" by this family.  I hope you enjoy!

 

Families and Mothers

This has been a very busy week!  Got news of our daughter being very sick and she is on a mission for our church.  School for both my husband and I and last weekend was General Conference for our church.  I know I can do all things that I need to do.

It is because of my class at BYU-I online and conference last weekend, I have come to know that it is never to late to show our children love and example.  While our children may choose a different path, we can be forever together.  I also learned that I have done my very best. 

Elder Jeffery R. Holland gave a wonderful talk about a Mothers love.  "No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child." This is something all mothers need to hear and I like to invite you to read or watch his talk from Conference. You can view the video, download the talk or listen to Elder Holland here.

Know you are a very important to your Heavenly Father too.  You were his child before you were your parents child.  To you mothers and fathers the same goes.  Your children were his children before they were yours.  He knows your feeling and he know you best.  Turn to him in need.

The Family: A Proclamation to the World

This past Wednesday marked 20 years the anniversary of the release of an important document. It is called The Family: A Proclamation to the World.

You can view the full script of the Proclamation at this link: The Family: A Proclamation to the World

 

His was a message filled with gratitude and tender emotion. He counseled, “Regardless of your circumstances, walk with faith”;“reach out in love to those in distress and need.

There is a line in the Proclamation that says  “Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.”

In a world that is ever changing, we need to know that if we walk by faith, with our family all can and will be well.  Forgive others and respect too.  Please take the time to listen, to pray and to study what family means to you.